On the back of Emma Watson’s inspiring speech for the UN on gender equality (available to watch here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q0Dg226G2Z8&feature=youtu.be), I would like to address an issue which has been irking me for some time now…female misconceptions or stereotypes portrayed by the media, and subsequently by society. I was particularly infuriated however last Wednesday (24 September) when I came across a Buzzfeed post (I should probably mention here that I’m an avid BF reader and somewhat live on the site due to have nothing to do at work all day) entitled ’45 Thoughts You Have When You Fall in Love With a Stranger in Public’ (http://www.buzzfeed.com/mattbellassai/thoughts-you-have-when-you-fall-in-love-with-a-stranger-i?utm_term=1kf7zez#1kf7zez) clearly written from a female perspective. As in the case with most BF posts I do realise that it is probably not intended to be taken too seriously. However, the post depicted the female narrator as desperate, delusional and really rather pathetic. It implied women pine and lust over random men they encounter on public transport. It suggested women envision an ideal romantic relationship with these strangers. It reinforced the notion that women ‘over think’ things. Basically…as is all too often conveyed in films, books and tv shows; it conveyed women as BAT SHIT CRAZY! And to be perfectly honest, if I encountered a lady who did genuinely have that conversation with herself in her head on the tube I would similarly question her mental stability.
Subsequently, I thought I would comment on other worrying and really rather aggravating misconceptions about the female gender:
I’ve recently started watching a show on BBC Three entitled ‘Don’t Tell The Bride’. For those of you who are not familiar with the premise of the series, it involves the groom-to-be taking full responsibility for the planning and organisation of his wedding based on a budget of £13,000 kindly provided by the show with the proviso that the film every minute of the saga. From the bride-to-be’s tantrums over her dislike of the wedding dress her partner has chosen, to the groom prematurely blowing all the money from the budget on the stag do. Despite being someone who can think of nothing worse than a large extravagant wedding (similar to that of my sister’s in which 500 guests attended…that’s right, 500!) I actually find the show rather touching and endearing at times as a celebration of love and a union between two people is something rather special really. However, the notion that most women have planned out or imagined their ideal wedding from childhood is highly inaccurate in my opinion and somewhat old-fashioned. Contrary to what may be popular belief among society, not all women desperately yearn to get married. It is not the be all and end all of a woman’s hopes and dreams. Women are not deviously trying to think up ways in which to ‘trap’ men into marrying them…at least, not the sane ones. Don’t get me wrong, as I said above…marriage is a beautiful thing and I think choosing to share your life with someone is amazing and wonderful and deserves to be celebrated. What I object to is the misconception that women can think of nothing else and that it is viewed as some sort of accomplishment in a woman’s life.
Apparently women nag. Wives nag. Girlfriends nag. Mothers nag. Why is this a widely accepted opinion? This is perhaps one of the most destructive stereotypes as it has become so deeply embedded within our culture that you may even find women propagating it (i.e. “I have to constantly nag at him to put the toilet seat down”). You should never have to nag at someone to do something. You should only have to request it of them. Perhaps you may even find yourself having to repeat the request. However, unless talking to a child I do not think the request should have to be repeated to the point to which it is redefined as a ‘nag’. In fact, even if talking to a child I do not think you should have to ‘nag’ them to do something. You may find yourself having to repeat your request several times yes (I have a niece and nephew so I know this all too well), but rather than ‘nagging’ the child I think you should simply explain the circumstances and implications of your request so as to deter from having to repeat yourself. However I’m not focusing on interactions with children. I’m focusing on the misconception among adults that women nag. A relationship in which a woman has to nag her partner sounds positively dreadful and incredibly unhealthy in my opinion. And yet, it is perceived that some men may avoid relationships purely for this reason. I would hope that any individual with half a brain would realise that a relationship in which one person was constantly having to tell the other person to do things would realise something wasn’t quite working in the dynamic and would do something to fix it, or otherwise would walk away from it and realise they were both better off apart.
Another backwards and outdated stereotype is that women are fragile creatures ruled by their emotions. What a load of nonsense! The notion that women are somehow less likely to be logical because our emotions will turn us into blubbering messes is absolutely ludicrous. Once again, I know of no sane women who adhere to this popular belief. Women are perfectly capable of making sound and reasonable decisions and judgements. We are not led by our hearts over our heads. Or by our loins for that matter. Perhaps as a highly logical and less sentimental individual I have always found this misconception to be especially baffling and ridiculous. Linked to this is the notion of our inherent desire to procreate because apparently women go ‘gaga’ for babies. Again, this is untrue. Whilst some women may be excitedly anticipating pregnancy and becoming a mother, this does not mean all women coo and ahhh over babies and baby clothing.
Right I think tackling three gender stereotypes is enough for one day. Any more and it may start to sound like I’m having a rant…perhaps it already does haha! Please feel free to comment and share your opinions on this topic.
Thanks for reading! 🙂